Danny and I finished our pre-marital counseling last Tuesday night and left the church feeling pretty good about our marriage preparedness. We were looking over our counseling completion letter and noticed a misspelling in Danny’s name. I called our counselor back on Thursday and he said he’d be happy to reprint it and have it ready for us the following Tuesday. I got a call Friday night and found out he passed away. The spelling of the name suddenly became the last thing on our minds…
…Danny and I spent some time this weekend discussing our counseling sessions and the impact Dr. Howald had on our relationship in just a few sessions. I knew him for a number of years as an associate pastor and counseling pastor at our church. He was extremely wise, thoughtful and intelligent. He had a heart for God and God’s people and gave of himself and his talents right up until his last day here on earth.
Dr. Howald pegged our personalities right off and gave us real life anecdotes and words of wisdom for how to successfully merge our lives, personalities and entire selves. He advised us to both give 100/100 rather than 50/50. He told us to always remember that we are each a sum of our own experiences and that we need to try and see things from each other’s perspectives.
The letter was fine, it turns out and we will be too. I do think we will really remember Dr. Howald’s words and wisdom with a deeper sense of respect and sentiment as we start our new journey here on earth and he starts his in heaven…